Trusting you is a key valuable skill to have in this day and age where everything is trying to pull your attention and have you question your own self-identity. In this episode, I dive into some ideas on how you can start to build trust in yourself and why it's important to do.
EP10 - Trusting Yourself
What's going on, everyone. It is Brett Williams here with another episode of moments of wisdom. With myself, Brett Williams. And on today's episode, I deep dive into trusting yourself. So if you're somebody who struggles to know your intuition struggles, to be able to connect to it, even know what it is, don't know how to trust yourself, anything along those lines.
Then this episode today is exactly. What you need to be listening to. So sit back, relax, enjoy. Let's dive into a couple of those topics that jump into some business conversation. Let's get into the mindset conversation. Let's get into anything else that may come upon this podcast because I'll give you a bit of an insight into the way that I record these.
I plan a little bit, and then I just hit the record button. And we find out what wisdom comes through. These are all one take wonders because I believe in being efficient in that time side of things, but also what it is. It's a lesson for me in trusting myself, trusting that whatever comes through is the right message.
And I think that's probably a fantastic place to start with this. Podcast episode today. And that is about trusting yourself and trusting that whatever you are doing is in the best interest. Now, I want to put a bit of a caveat into that as well. And what the caveat is is when you actually really tune in with yourself and you actually connect with your truth.
That's the thing that I want to put in there. What I'm talking about there is really kind of like your intuition or your inner wisdom. They were the two words that were merged into that one. And so really just knowing what is your truth? What is that thing that is aligned to where you are currently right now, be that against a viewpoint and opinion, something that you need to say, something that you need to share an action or a direction towards your goals or vision or whatever it might be.
What. If it is at the end of the day, that is aligned to your truth and ultimately is your truth. And so that's what I'm talking about here, when I'm referencing about trusting myself, that whatever I share on these podcasts is absolutely perfect. And at the same time that I have the ability to be able to communicate and all of that side, which that in itself, the ability to communicate is a topic for another conversation.
But that being said, When it comes to trusting your intuition and trusting yourself. What I'm talking about there is at the end of the day, when you do anything in life, now, be this in business, be this in person, be this in anything or everything. When it comes to that, ultimately you have to do what you feel most aligned for, and that works for you the most.
And one of the things that you'll see if you've ever noticed this before, with, with anybody around you, it can feel as though you've always got people by your side. But when. Things go wrong at the end of the day, everybody is going to choose themselves. And so you cannot be in a position in life. I believe where you are too dependent on somebody else to be able to give you your guidance, give you your directions and give you the answers that you ultimately need to find inside yourself.
Yes, you can utilize the people around you to the soundboard, especially if you have the right people around you, who can do that in a very neutral perspective and. You know, they also aren't discriminating against your opinions and your vision and your thoughts and feelings and all of that side of things in what you're actually expressing.
And so being able to really trust yourself that you have and can make the right decisions for yourself, be that as I said in business, or be that impersonal will be that relationships or anything along those lines are a really strong, valuable skill resource tool, whatever you might want to think about it to have within yourself.
Because, you know, business and example, when it comes to what is the best thing to move you into the next steps, the next phase, the next growth, the impact that you're wanting to have at the end of the day, when you get to that place. And you are standing in that place of the thing that you want to achieve.
You also want to own every element of the creation of that. And so if you've gone along the way and you've asked, you know, person a, Hey, what do you think about this? And then you've gone down that path and you've asked person B, Hey, what do you think about this in the next stage? And then you go down that path and then at the end of the day, yeah, sure.
You might get to that place where it's financial freedom. It's. Location independence. It's being your own boss, whatever it might be that you're looking for. And I'm speaking specifically, obviously in the business space right now, but when you are standing in that place and you have made it to this quote-unquote destination that you're wanting to get to, the thing is.
You are not going to feel fulfilled within that because at the end of the day, yes, you got to the end goal, but you didn't get to it the way that you wanted to because you've pushed yourself under the bus and you've not even really honoured or acknowledged your own truth or your own beliefs or whatever it might be.
And instead, you've just simply gone off the guidance of other people. Sure. They might have great knowledge and they might be able to fast-track your journey to it. And this is not a conversation around coaching that's. We can have a conversation around that another time, but this is really about just trusting yourself and making sure that at the end of the day.
Yeah, sure. You might be bouncing ideas off other people, but what is your truth to be standing in that place with a wrecking ball behind you as such, because that may be what happens. When you go about it, somebody else's way your truth to be standing there in a, with the, I guess the path behind you, you know, all shining, bright with people's appreciation and cheering you on and all that, because you've done it in a way that is aligned to your soul in the line to your truth.
And that's really the differences here. You know, being very extreme in my examples right now, but at the same time, I'm just wanting to convey that idea. Yes, you can get to the destination, but is that aligned to your truth? And that is the biggest thing that you really want to understand for yourself.
And so a couple of things in regards to your intuition and knowing your truth and being able to connect to it because society is fantastic at confusing. You. As to what is your truth? All of the things happening, I guess you could say in this world, social media relationships, other people's opinions, other people's views, all of that side of things, all of that noise can drown out your own intuition and your own connection with yourself.
And so it just leaves you questioning. Oh, who am I? And what do I know? And what do I like, what do I want, what do I, who am I like, where am I, you know, all of these questions that at the end of the day, it's your responsibility to silence that noise. So you can come back to yourself. And so we do live in a place where it's very easy to be disconnected from ourselves.
It's very easy to not listen to your truth and know what your truth is. Because perhaps in the past you've been in relationships or be it friendships, intimate relationships, workplaces, whatever it might be, where you have actually expressed your truth. Maybe you didn't do it as elegantly or effectively as you would like to have or whatever it might be, or you didn't own it enough.
And somebody in the vicinity of you or somebody you were talking to. Has absolutely 20-year-old part, emotionally, mentally, and verbally for having that viewpoint and having that truth. Now that could be a view of how to do a particular task in the workplace. It could be, you know, just to. What it is for lunch, you know, it could be anything, it could be, you know, seemingly insignificant.
It could be seemingly monstrous, whatever the two are. But at the end of the day, if you've had that experience where you actually spoke your truth and you honoured yourself and somebody has disregarded you and just like emotionally and mentally, as I said destroyed you at that moment. Well, then you're going to not feel safe.
And then when you're not feeling safe to actually express your truth, all of a sudden you start disconnecting from it because it's like, well, I just can't be that person. I just can't express that because heck if I say that, well, then, you know, where's the next. Bombardment of people's viewpoints and things like that coming from.
And so that's one of the first things to really start working through when it comes to being able to connect with your truth and ultimately being able to trust yourself with whatever comes up in life. And what have you actually doing? Whether that, as I said, is a business relationship. Personal, whatever it is, you know, or it could be, as I said, at the very, very start here, my self doing a one-take with a podcast, you know, trusting that wherever this journey takes me and takes you as the listener that it's perfect.
And that the information is right for what comes through right now and that I bring value to the podcast. And that's really what, what it comes back to for myself, at least in this example that I'm talking about right now. And so. When it does come back to really trusting yourself, then all of a sudden you get clearer as the way you're going in life.
You feel back in control of your life, which is a huge thing. And also at the same time, you know, you start creating the life that you ultimately want to be living in that side. And, and again, as I said, that's in any area of life, the other thing that that will do as well, And this is kind of like a, a sucky ball.
Um, a byproduct of it is the fact that it'll actually, it will show up for yourself when you actually need to acknowledge and honour you and speak your truth, even when you really do not want to. Now, what do I mean by when you do not want to when it is something like it may come up in between a friendship or relationship or work relation or whatever it could be, where it's something that the other person may not actually like to hear what it is you about to say now.
Please again, this is a topic for another conversation around communication. This is not about being abusive. This is not about being, um, manipulative. This is not about being narcissistic or anything like that towards the other person. This is just simply saying, you know what, right now, this does not work for me right now.
This is what I want to do. Or this is what I, this is where I'm at. And, and I get that, that might not work for you, but this is where I'm at. And I've got to honour myself because something that I think I've mentioned on the podcast before, and this is the saying that I, that I referenced time and time again with my coaching students and other conversations that come up is that sure.
At the end of the day, you may go to bed with somebody else, but you ultimately go to sleep by yourself. And when you lay your head on that pillow, you need to be comfortable with all of the actions, decisions, choices, communication, everything that you have done that day. You have to be comfortable with that because if you're not comfortable with that, then that's going to start to drive a wedge between yourself and whatever it is in you.
Area of life, McCain, relationship, business, whatever it is, it's going to start driving a wedge between it. You're going to start chuffed, stuffing these things down emotionally. You're going to have all of this baggage that's sitting around you that ultimately one day is going to just blow up in your face.
And so if at the end of the day, you can acknowledge it, honour yourself and say, I spoke my truth today. And I did the best that I could then at the end of the day, as far as I'm concerned in, in my books, you have actually achieved the best thing you possibly could do today. And that's one of them, I guess, conditions.
That's one of the things that's one of the boundaries and guidelines that I live my life. By the end of the day, I asked myself, how did I go today? And I do it from a place of compassion, not from a place of self-destruction. So please. Be mindful of the two differences it's coming from a, did I speak my truth with that?
I know when I knew I needed to speak my truth, even when I knew it was hard at that moment to actually want to speak my truth but did I speak my truth? If yes, fantastic. Pat myself on the back and give me an attaboy really just be proud of me and honour myself for that. And at the same time, like, is there anything you can also still ask?
Is there something else that I could have done differently? You know, how could I have maybe alleviated something a little bit quicker, whatever it is. And it, and again, what that's going to do is strengthen your truth, marshal and your, your self intuition muscle to say, when these situations come up again, this is how I could have handled it better with if I was in a position where I was not emotionally charged or emotionally triggered or emotionally reactive or whatever it could have been depending on how that situation may have played out.
So that being said, I have no idea how long I've been going for right now. I like to keep this kind of bite-sized. So I'm going to round that one out right now. So again, we're talking about trusting yourself that at the end of the day, whatever you do touch, create or decide whatever it is at the end of the day, making sure that it's aligned with your truth because when you do go to bed at night and you lay your head there on the pillow, that you can look at yourself in your mind's eye and say, I did the best that I could today and I was aligned to my truth.
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